Whites are privileged in this society and having what they have serves as validation for a lot of people.Successful minorities love to say, “You're privileged but I'm so smart and awesome and financially secure that I have the same, if not better, house, car, and woman as you.”Need evidence that some black men see dating a white woman as a sign of their success?Or, if you are the woman in the interracial relationship, the women in your boyfriend’s life will probably shun you.
They just got tired of the stares and comments so decided to go on dates elsewhere.This is a huge problem and you need to be aware of it before you enter into an interracial dating relationship with a white woman, especially if you are black.You might not have a bit of racism in you, and your reasons for dating the man/woman of your dreams has nothing to do with race at all. Be prepared for the stares, stupid comments, and maybe even violence (thankfully, this doesn’t occur often anymore in Western countries).This can also be a problem with men, such as you getting shunned by your girlfriend’s male friends.We stick to our “tribes” and people feel rejected or jealous when they see someone from “their tribe” dating someone who looks different.
In this article about meeting the parents when you are in an interracial relationship, David Schiller gives some good tips, like pretending that you like all the food and refraining from mentioning race at all. Even if you think your family is totally cool and not the least bit racist, it might still come as a surprise when you show up for dinner with a person from ___ race. Some of these questions might be well intentioned, but ignorant and painful nonetheless.