Dating at midlife what you need to know
Yoga, therapy, time with friends and loved ones and journaling through the tough spots helped me fall in love with myself again and let me know, REALLY KNOW, that I could be on my own.
Get to know yourself so you can be clear on what you hope to get out of dating.
I’d like to propose that there is actually a middle ground and that the thought process and actions reflected in this middle ground thinking will yield two critical outcomes: enjoyment during (most of) the dating process and a higher probability of achieving the results you are looking for.
The following are things you need to have in place to work from this middle ground: Did you know that you can tell a lot about a person if you know what section of the newspaper (for those of us who still read our papers rather than the online version) he or she picks up first?
If you’re thinking about putting on your big girl pants and diving back into dating, here’s what you should consider.
It’s important after a major breakup to take time to heal.
Imagine for a moment that your life is made up of a portfolio of activities.There seem to be two types of people when it comes to dating in midlife: those who are the proverbial kid, having fun while looking for the pony in the pile of…well you know what, and those who consider it a necessary evil to be avoided, sometimes at all costs.At first, the sad feelings came often, numbed by binging into the wee hours of the morning, chased with pots of coffee.Sometimes, when the kids were at their dad’s, I would be engulfed by a loneliness so deep that nothing could fill it.
I spent six months recalibrating, then dipped a toe into the dating scene and decided I wasn’t ready yet.