Husbands angry outbursts are intimidating
According to Proverbs , “Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” And James 3:5-6 offers this penetrating warning: Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. When there is death on the inside, it will eventually show up in the your words.If that’s the position you need to take it’s probably for a good reason. Either you are protecting your assets, your children or your own personal safety. That gives a particular emphasis to his words: Every critical comment that comes out of your mouth … The Bible speaks of the throat as an “"open grave” (Romans ). The verse opens with a Greek word that means “all, each, every.” The word meaning “no” occurs later in the verse. Proverbs says, “The tongue has the power of life and death.” Every time you open your mouth either life or death comes out.
Second, we are to speak words that minister grace to those who hear them.We’re tired or we’re provoked or we weren’t thinking or we didn’t mean it or it’s true so we said it. We all have people in our lives that drive us nuts. You can irritate a stranger and you can offend a casual acquaintance, but you can only grieve someone very close to you.Some people just seem to have the “spiritual gift” of irritation. As usual, Paul’s advice is both practical and profound. Excusing unkind words by saying, “I was only joking.”The Greek construction of verse 29 is a bit unusual.Reflecting on that experience 20 years later, he remarked that the memory of those searing words had helped him 10,000 times when he was tempted to make a critical comment about a family member, a friend, a colleague or someone he knew casually. “A man who truly loves God would not talk about a friend like that.”We all have our excuses for what we say, don’t we? (When I mentioned your ex-husband or wife, someone in the congregation called out, Yes! The word “grieve” comes from a Greek word that signifies deep emotion. You can’t grieve a stranger you meet on the street.
However, the sooner we learn to stand up for ourselves the sooner the bully will go away.