Single ministers dating
By knowing those relationships where I was to say yes, I knew also where I could say no without guilt.
Years later, when the speaking invitations started to roll in after the publication of my first book, my pastor saw where I could be driven by an open calendar.
When I was a single woman in my mid-thirties, I invited the elders of my church and their wives to a formal holiday dinner as a way of expressing my thanks to them for their care and ministry. ” This pastor offered this comment as an expression of thanks and I received it that way.
She is also author, with Nora Shank, of the book The Measure of Success: Uncovering the Biblical Perspective on Women, Work, and the Home.
A single woman in her 50s with a demanding career caring for elderly parents is not equivalent to a recent college grad who is still living at home.
Both are unmarried, yes, but chances are, the older single woman and the parents of the college grad may have more in common.
The hope here is that these ideas will foster a stronger connection between unmarried people and their local congregations: Churches should have a high view of marriage and uphold it without apology.
But church leaders also need to recognize that when marriage is devalued in our culture, that brokenness comes into the church, too.
It’s important that unmarried men and women are discipled as men and women and not a generic lump of singleness.